Everyone has a history that makes them take steps to learn how to be better with women, from being curious about the methods, to heart breaks that left them mentally crippled.

During my post break up, I had felt a bit lost and thought that learning the system would be the way out. It was a way forward and I noticed the changes in me, but the progression was slow and along the journey I had that feeling of being stuck, a ‘sticky point ‘ as we call it, where there is a road block on our journey. It wasn’t until I had acknowledged the battle scars left behind from my last relationship, that I realised I was hindering myself from moving forward.

Learning how to attract girls is a great tool to move forward, but this alone will not progress you further without removing the demon within yourself.

Here are the main tips for what I did to improve my game after a break up.

1. Love Yourself

You shouldn’t need anyone to love you to be able to love yourself. In fact you really need to love yourself, before anyone can truly love you.

Truth is, you don’t need anyone or material objects to make you happy. We need to realise that what we have NOW makes us happy. I believe happiness comes from the inside and we often forget that. We spend time blaming other things for our happiness.

Look into your heart and see what you are grateful for or what you may have taken for granted.

2. Love your Ex-Partner

What? I must be crazy in saying this right? But she broke up with me, or cheated on me.

My ex-fiancée ended our relationship, kicked me out from her place and married her ex-boyfriend who is now her husband. Why wouldn’t I hate her for that? Being angry with her is like holding a hot coal in my hand hoping to burn her with it. In the end it’s you with the smelly burnt flesh, which in my case is 2 years of my life wasted being angry with her.

Try practicing forgiveness and thank your ex. Yes, you read it correctly. Thank her for what you had learnt while you were in the relationship. Maybe something that you never realised, because we tend to focus on the bad and not the good.

Write a letter to her to avoid any arguments you may have if you talked to her directly.

3. Learn From the Past, Change for the Future

The past is the past; we can’t change it unless we have access to a time machine. Don’t sit around and drown yourself in self-pity, but take a look at the great times you had with her and what you can learn from it. Ultimately you want to come out from that relationship as a better man by learning from your mistakes and applying that to your future relationship.

This will also make a great story to tell when getting confortable with women. It will display a deeper side of you. A triumph over pain to transform you into a better person and having a positive view in life.

4. Take Charge of Your Life

We may not be in control of the things around us, but we are in control of who we are and what we do. Learning to let go of the past and creating your future is the way to move forward.

How many times have you heard people say something along the line of “I’m trying to find myself” and they are still searching? You should instead create yourself, create your possibility in life and do what you always wanted to do now. Sky diving, knitting - whatever floats your boat. Do it now!

Be responsible for all the promises you had made to yourself, complete it, and feel the power of what little accomplishments can bring into your life.

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