So, you want to talk to a girl, but afraid of rejection because of lame pick up lines just keeps getting you rejected and want to try a different angle?

Learn the art of opening by starting off with the basic overview.

 

1. Opening is a Conversation Starter

Everyone has heard the term “Pick Up lines” which is a way to start a conversation with attractive women. The problem with pick up lines is they sound sleazy, cheap and immature. A well crafted alternative to pick up lines is called “Openers”.

 

An opener is the first thing you say in the interaction. It maybe direct which telegraph you interest or indirect which is the opposite.
These are more affective as they include the women to participate in the conversation.

 

2. Opening Doesn’t Trigger Her Autopilot Response

Women are constantly being hit on by men with lame lines such as “hi, what’s your name?” or “you are beautiful, can I buy you a drink?”, which has telegraph the guys interest in a needy, desperate way.
 
A beautiful woman would get this around 7 to 10 times a night in a social environment and because she doesn’t have time to get to know everyone, she will put on this defence shield to eliminate the guys who approach her with the same lines. After a while this repetition behavior will become a habit and will trigger an autopilot response every time a guys approaches her.

 

That is why openers are constructed a bit different to avoid triggering women’s pre program responses by making her think.

 

3. Opening is The Most Important and Also The Least

Most guys believe this is the most important part of the game and that is partly true, as we do need to approach them to establish communication. So they harp on what they would say to the girl.
 
The important aspect of opening is actually the opening. An attempt must be made to approach and having a normal conversation. You can’t rely on the women to approaching you, unless you’re a super star.

 

The least important is what you actually say as most women will not remember the context. I’ve asked many girls about what I said to them when I approached them and maybe out of 10, only 1 remembered.

Saying this, the context cannot be what triggers her autopilot response.

 

4. Opening Successfully is Based On Your Non-Verbal Elements

Contrary to what we believe, it’s not the words you say, but how you act around them that will make your opener a success or failure.

 

A study showed that 93% of human communication is the tone of your voice and body language. If you open with a soft tone that is hard to hear, it will resemble low confidence; if you hold eye contact then it shows confidence.

 

5. Opening Should Be Short

The purpose of opening is to start a conversation, but shouldn’t be a long dwindle discussion on it.
As the opener is milked to the maximum, the conversation will run flat, and the outcome is usually the girl walks away.

 

6. Opening Should Be With a Smile

As mention above how successful openers are based on non-verbal, smiling is a key factor of that non-verbal category. A smile indicates confident, upbeat and inviting.

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