To be good with women, it’s not just about things you say to charm them, but it’s about the whole package that is in front of them, the way you talk, the way you walk, the way you view life and yourself.

 

Women often say they want a man with the complete package, someone who has money with solid abs, but is caring etc. Basically what they are saying is someone who has their act together. But as you know women, they don’t’ say what they really mean. So what makes the package?

 

What makes the package?

The package consists of 2 components that go hand in hand with each other. It must be balanced for the ultimate lifestyle for yourself and the women that will be attracted to you.

 

Outer Game: Is the external obstacles in order to attract women. Anything from what you look like, the way you talk or to the way you walk. These techniques can be taught.

Some of the examples to attract women in your outer game are:

• The way you dress: What value are you displaying
• Your body language: Are you open which display confidence and interest
• Eye contact: Are you confident to look at her and challenge her
• Voice tonality: Are you projecting an authority voice

 

Inner Game: The fuel to get you to your goals. It takes place within the mind and is how you feel about yourself, basically the voice inside your head where obstacles such as assumptions, fear or even self-doubt holds you back. Many guys usually have this problem and mainly this is the one that stops them from succeeding with women.

Some examples are:

• Fear of approaching: Afraid of rejection
• Self-esteem: I’m too ugly; she is out of my league.

 

How they compliment each other?

 Like anything in life, you need a balance. Sometimes one will help the other, just like developing an outer game will also improve the inner.  But both need to be develop.

 

Like I mention above about both inner and outer. If you have a map or a path you will go so far before you run out of energy, likewise if you have the fuel to drive you and have not roadmap where will you go?

 

When I first started out, I didn’t really have either one together, but if I had to pick which I had more of, it was Outer Game. My outer game was, I had a sense of style to a point most girls thought I was gay.

 

Anyway so I thought the outer game was the solution, but like anything in life, without the inner game developed, you wouldn’t reach your maximum potential. I was only attracting girls who I consider was at my level because the obstacle in my mind was I wasn’t good enough to get someone that above that. It was my illusion.

 

I’ve seen guys who have good outer game, but when something happen, like a rejection from women; they start to hate the game. You need the inner game to be able to put it behind and move on, not let it discourage you.

 

Saying that good inner game is essential for life, but without outer game or the tools to get what you want, you be forever figuring out especially in area of the female psychology.

 

Not Just for Attracting Women

Both inner and outer game mention are not only limited to women but life itself. With this developed you will conquer life itself. Sure the outer game is primarily design to attract women but some of the tips will be useful in other areas.

 

One part of my life change is in my career. My outer game has taught me to show passion (an attraction quality) for my work and my life and story telling to convey similar work scenarios in interviews. My inner game has helped me to ask for unreasonable request and confidence in my ability to take on any challenges.

 

Takes Time To Put It Together

Different people have different walks of life, so putting these two components together may take time for some to interlink outer and inner together . It takes patience to build it up and don’t be discourage but enjoy the journey as I guarantee you will see the reward.

 

 

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