Many guys think getting the girls number is the ultimate success, but I’m here to burst your bubble.

Why not the number?

We live in a new world of technology and with caller ID  (most likely invented by an annoyed woman) our calls can now be screened, which gives her the ability to choose to ignore you. Acquiring the number is irrelevant as there are other avenues to contact her. There are however, some exceptions. As an example, you approach a cute girl during the day using your day game methodology. However she might be in a rush to meet some friends or get back to work or even meet up with another potential boyfriend. This is when you get her digits, as there is a time restriction, which prevents you from properly gaming her. If time permits, build report and follow your solid game as this is fundamentally more important than obtaining her number.

 

But don’t I need to get her number before a date?

This is the biggest misconception guys have in dating. The thinking of most guys is once I have her number; I can stalk and harass her till she says “yes” to a date. This is not the way to make her swoon over your masculinity. It will lead you one step closer to being served with a restraining order. Instead make a date before getting her number.  Think of it like this; the date is the product we seek and the number is the receipt.

 

Isn’t it the same thing? Why is planning a date more important?

Have you had the experience or know of someone who has,  where the entire night the girl seemed like she was bursting at the seems and wanted to jump you there and then, she’d make googly eyes at you, hang off every word and laugh at every dumb joke that came out of your suave, charming mouth. Then success!! You get the number. You think you’ve made it until you try and call and she ignores you and you get a call from her uncle bubba telling you to stop stalking…

Here is the thing. I’ve heard a lot of guys ( I was one of them) had a great conversation with the girl and end it with ..

“hey we should catch up sometime, what is your number?”

and when you end up calling her, it’s like.

“Hi how are you? Good? What have you been up to?… ”

As you can see this progression has no momentum.

Setting up a date prior on the other hand will first let you know if she is interested in you. But remember the date is the product so create the product that she wants. The number is just contact information, nothing more. So calling or texting her as a follow up to your date would give a continuous flow.

For example

“Hey, I just found out, the club we are going to on Friday is having a boot scooting night… wear your cow girl hat you were telling me you look hot in”

Setting up a date is easier then what you would think. It’s a matter of either having a planned destination or one that comes up during the conversation.

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